YOU DESIRE A SWEET MARRIAGE....SHINE YOUR HEART contd
CHECK VISION, DREAMS AND PURPOSES
Can two work together except
they agree? No they can't if they don't agree. So two people who intend to live
together forever must understand what the dreams (aspirations, imaginations, thoughts etc) of
each other are. They must be aware and accept the future they both see of
themselves.
If a lady is marrying a pilot
for example, she must come to terms with the reality of having her husband
being in the air flying an airplane a lot of times. The marriage would come
with the risk, Or a man who marries a woman who is a lawyer but now works in
the bank as a marketer but derives no pleasure in going to work everyday
because the job takes her far from what gives her joy.
One party trying to mold
their spouse later on into who they are
not in these situations can ultimately break those marriages .
This means that during
courtship discussions on dreams and aspirations are very important. A woman who
from time always told a man she would prefer to be a housewife should not be
coerced into picking up a job later on. She could just believe in staying at
home and taking care of their children. Any man who marries her should not
become uncomfortable later in the future.
hat is not to say people’s dreams
don’t change, we must always give room for flexibility and maturity. A person’s
dreams can mature and be improved on later on in life. What really matters is
the understanding of what is most paramount to the person at that time. Two
people are in marriage to make each other better and happy. Any marriage not
doing this is off course. Marriage is for a purpose and the two people must discover from God why they ought to marry, for what purpose? That is a discussion for the next post.
Love from moi
Ibitee
